It’s probably pretty obvious to the rest of the world – just not to me. It took an “aha!”

First – I have to decide that being at peace with myself and my God is the goal.
Then, I become willing to do what is necessary to make that happen…
and I can proceed to the place that no longer says “If he would just to this, I could be happy” or “If she acted/felt this way, I could be happy.” I can’t control he or she, nor should I.

One thing I surely need to do is practice so that I can learn to get these thoughts down in sentences that make sense. I’m not sure why that is so difficult. The images are clear in my mind, but refuse to have words wrapped around them.